what wud yooh do if ur parentz wanted yooh to geh married in earlie tym???

Naz wrote:I go thru dis lyk everyday! truss me..im feelin u bbe! every1 sayz ima get married well early..n 2 sum freshy aswell..lol

i dnt cre wah dey say eny more..every1z alwayz plannin my wedding..even ma bro..n all dis shit on howz hes gna b hiring carz n ma mates n cuzn hav alredy decided on colour codes!!! lol n da fing is im only turning 16 lyk next week!

ma mates gettin married next month n shes 16 lol so its givin ma mum ber ideas..
da best fing to do is to use studying or workin as a excuse! x

Tassy wrote:i needd sum adviceee ppl

OlderStrongerFaster wrote:16??? omdaiiiiz.......n herez me finkiin 19 woz early!!!

PoisonIvy wrote:

Tassy wrote:i needd sum adviceee ppl

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Any marriage requires long term planning. Especially with arranged marriages. Parents tend to seek early consent so it gives them plenty time in choosing the future partner.

Just coz ur single doesn't mean you're ready for marriage. I can understand your fear, the whole marriage concept is freaky. But maybe you'd like to think abt it since you're 19. Islamically it's better to marry young then later, it means you're less likely to commiting major sins.

I dnt knw what advice to give you but maybe a few of my personal experiences could help your thoughts adjust to the marriage concept of life. I remember when Iwas 19 and my family wanted to get me married off, but mentally Iwasn't prepared for a partner, I'm an ideal housewife, wifey material but mentally my mind wasn't ready for a partner. At that point I was in the same position as you thinking my life is over, that's it i'm gonna be married. But I was wrong, my family jus wanted my permssion before going out and seeking anyone for me.

At the age of 20 I turned round and thought to myself, this stuff takes time, what have I to loose. Many come and many go, we go thru an approval section, then the reject. It doesn't happen as soon as you see it or think abt it. My ideal age for marriage is 24. I'm now 23 and it has taken time in finding and choosing the ideal partner.

This stuff takes time, give it some thought, dnt be scared..remember at the end of the day you're entitled to share your views and opinions, make sure you have a say and are constantly aware of whats happening around you. It's a fun process, you're in control..make the most of it

hhmmmm i geh wt u r tryna say hun .. i understand... buh fing is i cant speak up to ma parents like about marriege stuff.. its kinda embaresing to talk bwt dis to dem if yooh knw wat i mean... plus am d eldest n der takin advantge of it... i jus cnt take it anymre...

OlderStrongerFaster wrote:i reeeli dont know wot advice 2 giv ya hun but alll i can say iz if ur not ready 4 marrij den try n get ur mum n daddy 2 understand ya....n hey use da education reason....datz a gooood xcuse n it usuallly workz...hehe xx

Lol i always use da excuse abt education.... it dosent work trus meh .... dey goes to meh yooh can stil continue studyin afta ur marrige ... i geh stuck wen dey say dat... ma poiint is I DONT WANA GET MARRIED NOW... its toooo earliii uno... am onlii 16 n nearli 17 in nxt 2 mnths n der planning it out ...

mini wrote:If you girls get chance to get married before 20 then just do it!

There is a proverb in Bangla: "Maiya Manush Kureetey(20) teh Buuuriii(Old)!!!"

viper wrote:

Naz wrote:I go thru dis lyk everyday! truss me..im feelin u bbe! every1 sayz ima get married well early..n 2 sum freshy aswell..lol

i dnt cre wah dey say eny more..every1z alwayz plannin my wedding..even ma bro..n all dis shit on howz hes gna b hiring carz n ma mates n cuzn hav alredy decided on colour codes!!! lol n da fing is im only turning 16 lyk next week!

ma mates gettin married next month n shes 16 lol so its givin ma mum ber ideas..
da best fing to do is to use studying or workin as a excuse! x

Isn't that illegal getting married at 16?

OlderStrongerFaster wrote:lol gud enuf??? hehe i dont reli knw u but am gessin datz truu....lol

25 wud b a lil old i fink...but am glad none of my older sisterz r marid yet...it wudnt b d same wivout dem....